If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company“ – Jean-Paul Sartre

We all know someone who actually seeks time away from others (or we may be one of them!). Turns out, it has nothing to do with whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert in terms of whether you actually enjoy being alone. Let’s put aside the false notion that it’s a yes-no thing (are you an introvert or an extrovert?) because it exists on a scale. But for simplicity’s sake, let’s assume you’re either an “introvert” or an “extrovert”.

With that simplistic notion in place, many of us would guess that “introverts” would enjoy being by themselves than “extroverts” would. But early studies suggest that’s not true. Although we believe that “introverts” enjoy alone time, it’s actually not the determining factor for who enjoys alone time.

In fact, what determines whether you enjoy alone time is determined by another characteristic/trait: dispositional autonomy. People who score high on this trait have strong alignment between their internal beliefs and external behaviors, are highly motivated by their curiosity to learn about themselves, and are resistant to outside pressures.

Individuals who rate highly in dispositional autonomy tend to agree with statements like, “My decisions represent my most important values and feelings” and “I am deeply curious when I react with fear and anxiety.”


Alignment and Courage. 

Seek just some time alone to get to know who you are. This is so important: to seek alignment and courage. Because self-development starts with self-awareness. Being congruent and true to yourself. And having the courage to express your true self freely.

Learn just one new thing about yourself each week – and apply what you learn moving forward in the direction of your vision.


Live with intention. Lead with inspiration.

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